Married, Pregnant, and Planning My Escape: The Secret I’ve Never Told
- Stephen Wick
- Aug 30
- 6 min read
Updated: Sep 28
I would like to disclose a personal secret anonymously, and I trust that this is a non-judgmental environment. When I was 34, I met a man who was 41 and unmarried with no kids. He didn't initially strike me as someone who would be my type, but I was feeling a bit desperate at the time. This feeling stemmed from the undue pressure I felt after my ex abruptly ended our relationship and quickly got married to someone else. I felt the need to prove that I was desirable and capable of having what my ex had.
He’s a trucker—rough around the edges and not exactly what I envisioned in a future spouse. He travels often yet somehow manages to spend plenty of time at home. At the time, If I were younger, I probably wouldn’t have accepted his proposal. But I was drawn to him; his financial stability and generosity were hard to ignore. He’s moderately attractive, though his appearance and mannerisms don’t quite match up.
As a thriving financial analyst, I've dedicated years to advancing my career, setting objectives, and reaching them through hard work and resolve. I've always taken pride in making wise, calculated choices—especially regarding my career. However, when it came to love, things got a lot more complicated. After dating my husband for eight months, he popped the question. On the surface, it looked like the right decision. He was stable, generous, and available. But deep down, I realized I was saying yes not because of love, but out of a sense of vulnerability.
At that time, I was still recovering from a tough breakup with my ex—the guy I believed I would spend my life with. He left without warning and married someone else, and that rejection hit hard. I felt tossed aside, like I had something to prove. I wanted to demonstrate to the world, and maybe to myself, that I was still desirable, still deserving of commitment. So, when my current husband proposed, I said yes, hoping it would fill the emptiness inside.
During that time, I met a few other guys, but none were serious about settling down. They were charming and fun, but ultimately just temporary. My husband, on the other hand, provided a sense of permanence. And in that moment of emotional vulnerability, permanence felt like security. I convinced myself that love could develop, that we could build compatibility. But as time went on, I came to understand that no amount of financial stability or companionship could make up for a lack of emotional connection and personal compatibility.
We've been married for eight years, and honestly, I've been struggling since day one. What began as minor annoyances gradually turned into daily frustrations that wore down my patience and emotional health. His refusal to keep up with even the most basic hygiene is honestly shocking. I'm always reminding—no, begging—him to take a shower, brush his teeth, change his clothes, or at least fix the ones that are falling apart. I don’t mind doing the laundry or helping him look decent; I’m his wife, and I’ve always thought supporting my partner was important. But what really broke something inside me was seeing him give away the brand-new clothes and shoes I bought to help him update his wardrobe. It felt like a rejection—not just of the items, but of the effort, care, and hope I had invested in trying to make our life better together.
On top of that, his lactose intolerance has turned into a constant source of discomfort. Even though he knows how it affects him, he keeps eating dairy, and the results are unbearable. The flatulence is so bad that our bedroom often smells like a sewer, even with the windows wide open or the air conditioning blasting. It’s not just unpleasant—it’s suffocating. The smell hangs in the air and in my mind, wiping out any hint of intimacy or desire I might have had. Our private moments have become tense, awkward, and emotionally distant. I try to be understanding, reminding myself that marriage has its challenges, but the reality is, I feel disconnected—from him, from myself, and from the life I thought we were building.
I’ve asked many times if there’s a medical issue behind it, but his stubborn refusal to get a checkup makes it hard to know. In short, I ended up pregnant by someone else because I don’t feel a spark with my husband—he simply doesn’t appeal to me. To comfort myself, I rekindled my relationship with my ex, and we’ve been close ever since. The man who got me pregnant is also married. He was my high school sweetheart, until he left me to attend college in another state. Sometimes, I wish I had stayed single instead of marrying my current husband—I'm exhausted.
I haven’t taken a DNA test, and I don’t plan to reveal the truth. My husband believes the child is his—we have three kids together—and he has been a wonderful father. My secret lover mentioned wanting a child, since his wife can’t have more due to Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. Still, I don’t trust him enough to tell him about this pregnancy.
It will be painful for everyone when the truth comes out, but I’ve made the decision to leave my husband and take the kids with me. I’m now planning my exit and counting down the days until I can end this marriage. Please, wish me luck.
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